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If you’ve been alone for a while or haven’t found Miss or Mr. Right you might find yourself wondering if you are the problem.  Maybe you are just too picky?  Perhaps that’s true or maybe not but it isn’t always obvious whether you need to make some adjustments or simply carry on.  In this episode Alvean and Doug offer some litmus tests to help you find out whether your standards are keeping you from a richer relationship or you are in need of an attitude adjustment. For a full transcript, click here:LL07

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As the song says, breaking up is hard to do, but there are better and worse ways to part with someone and end a relationship.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about the psychological and emotional experience as well as offering some practical advice for how to say goodbye without leaving the other person feeling emotionally crippled or angered.  For a full transcript of the episode, click here:LL06

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Is there a person made just for you?  When we talk about star crossed lovers is it just a saying or is there real truth to the idea that we have a soul mate? Alvean and Doug explore these questions in this episode, a full transcript of which can be found here: LL05

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How can we recognize the difference between true love and infatuation?  Is your crush a passing fancy or the real thing?  Doug & Alvean share the secrets to finding out if your feelings pass the litmus test for true love.  For a complete transcript click here: LL04

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How do you know if you are in a truly loving relationship?  One way is to recognize that lovers learn to love more.  Alvean and Doug explain this amazing but true observation–loving makes us more loving.  For a full transcript click here: LL03

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Alvean & Doug explore the question who serves as models for us as we grow in our relationships and as human beings. It isn’t always who you might think.  For a full transcript, click here: LL02

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As we begin our third year and exciting new topics we thought it would be fun to revisit the beginning.  So here is the story of how Alvean and Doug came together to create Love life.  A full transcript can be found here:LL01-

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Some people never seem able to sustain a relationship and may wonder if they are simply too picky.  What does it mean to be picky–is it merely high standards or a form of self sabotage?  How do you recognize healthy forms of discernment from corrosive and judgmental behavior? For a transcript of this episode in which Doug and Alvean discuss the techniques for investigating our motives, click here: LL07

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As the song says, breaking up is hard to do.  But is doesn’t have to be scorched earth.  Sometimes relationships stall–or just don’t work for one reason or another.  The key to a successful breakup is to avoid anger and a violation of trust. And yes, there are such things as a successful parting of the ways, one in which neither of you is scarred forever. Alvean and Doug talk about how to love and respect yourself and your partner even as you go your separate ways.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL06

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Particularly for men, but certainly for most of us being vulnerable is a hard thing to do.  No one wants to be hurt.  Is it possible to remain open and vulnerable without exposing yourself to devastating pain?  Doug and Alvean discuss the rewards of vulnerability and ways that we can show our inmost selves without losing our selves.  A full transcript of this episode can be found here: LL18-Vulnerability