Staying Positive



It seems the news on almost every front is dispiriting these days.  Everywhere we turn there is negativity and it can get you down, turning a positive attitude negative in short order.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug discuss the ways one can find the positive energy in a negative environment and how couples can help one another achieve an affirming relationship. For a complete transcript, click here: LL38-Staying Positive in a Negative World


The Art of Persuasion



Getting what you want without coercion, manipulation or worse is all about the art of persuasion.  Couples need to learn how to achieve their individual and mutual relationship goals in a manner that leaves them both satisfied.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug discuss the persuasion rules and tools for negotiation that engender mutual respect and  win/win solutions.  For a full transcript, click here: LL37-The Art of Persuasion


Tune In or Tune Out



Listening is one of the most important skills in relationship building.  Really hearing what the other person has to say–rather than simply acknowledging with half attention is not only a courtesy it is a profound sign of engagement and investment.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about the art of tuning in to what others have to say and the downside of tuning out when you are into yourself or just not into what your SO has to say.  For a full transcript, click here: LL36-Listening-Tune in or Tune out


When Kids and Pets Are In the Way



We love them both but sometimes kids or pets become an issue in a relationship.  Navigating the sensitivities that attach to our children and pets can be extremely trying.  Fortunately, Alvean and Doug have some counsel for ways to skillfully avoid contention and ensure you are all on the same page.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL35-When Kids or Pets are in the way


Why Couples Quarrel



In this episode, Alvean and Doug explore the reasons that people in relationships quarrel.  It may not be too serious, or it can be a sign of underlying issues that need to be resolved, and soon.  To find out which and ways to resolve differences in a healthy and loving manner you can listen and read the attached transcript: LL29-Why Do Couples Quarrel?