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Torn between two lovers is more than a song title–it is sometimes a reality and can lead to devastating consequences for everyone involved in a relationship triangle. In this episode Alvean and Doug discuss the challenges and chart a course to navigate the emotional seas. For a full transcript of this episode, click here:LL54-You, Me and ………
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There are times when Men and Women can be opaque to one another–prompting a good deal of misunderstanding and emotional trial. In this episode, Doug & Alvean explore the real feelings behind things men do say and don’t. Getting in touch with one’s feelings–expressing them to others is not a given and for men in particular an experience for which they may not be well prepared. Whether you are a man who wants to learn how to better communicate your feelings or a woman trying to decipher what may be confusing signals, this episode can help. For a full transcript, click here:LL53-What men rarely say but often feel
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Have you ever heard someone say this? Maybe you have said it yourself after a period of unfortunate misses in the dating scene. Alvean and Doug talk about the whys and the whos that we encounter while looking for our ideal mate and how we can sometimes sabotage ourselves along the way. The answer is yes–there are good men and women out there but it matters a great deal whether you are looking in the right places and whether you are ready for the right one when they come along. For more, click here fr a full transcript; LL52-Are there any good men or women out there?
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The song title says it all, breaking up is hard to do. But there are ways to part company without scorching the earth. Alvean and Doug talk about their own experience and the strategies they have found for bringing you both to the conclusion that moving on alone is better than together. For more, see the attached transcript of this episode here: LL51-Breaking Up
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When a little one comes along it changes things–in some cases for the better but it can also expose weaknesses in a relationship that could tear a family apart. Alvean and Doug talk about navigating parenthood, the last of the unskilled occupations and one few are prepared for. For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL50-And Baby Makes Three
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What do you do when your family or your partner get involved in your relationship and become a destructive force? Are there such things as toxic families? Alvean and Doug talk about the role and importance of building a solid “us” fortress that sets you and your partner apart from negative influences so neither of you need to choose or worry about what family might think or say. They also offer some tips for diagnosing toxicity when you see it. For a complete transcript of this episode, click here:LL49 -Toxic Families
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We read about May/December relationships where one person is considerably older than another. And we also hear about relationships between those who seem very young or very old. Does age really matter or can two people find love and sustainability regardless of these distinctions? Alvean discuss age and its bearing on successful relationships in this episode, for which a copy of the transcript can be found here: LL48-Does Age Matter?
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Alvean and Doug talk about strategies for negotiating with your mate. How do you get what you want without forcing your partner to give up what is important to them? How do you create win win solutions in difficult circumstances? These and other questions make for an intriguing episode. For a complete transcript, click here:LL47-Getting What You Want
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Alvean and Doug discuss the challenges that can occur when family or friends are invited or insinuate themselves into a relationship. They may have every good intention but there are pitfalls to non-professional counseling that can often exacerbate underlying issues or even create them where they do not currently exist. For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL46-Friends and Family as Counselors
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You find each other, fall in love and the chemistry and positive feelings pull you along what seems a never ending and positive current. Then you hit a snag–one or the other of you suddenly signals the need for change. Maybe it is some habit or personality quirk–maybe something more serious but the struggle for control and the daily wearing down of complaints or unhappiness become a weight that threatens to sink your relationship. It doesn’t have to be this way–but you cannot solve it by ignoring the problem. Learning to listen to each other without judgment, to find ways to meet each others needs and to set priorities that respect health compromise is the art of relationships. Living together is easy in the short run–harder over time and finding the way to grow closer rather than further apart is the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Alvean and Doug offer strategies for coping with dissatisfaction–learning to love your partner just as they are. For a copy of the full transcript of this episode, click here: LL45-I love you Just the Way You Are